Dear Responsible Momma,

  How does a high responsibility Mom take care of 5 boys who have little interest in responsibility?     #1: She goes crazy. She spends her every step trying to command them in “duties”—wash your hands, take off your shoes, put away your toys, make your bed, brush your teeth, stay on task! Thus,… Read more »

Lazy Parenting

We’ve all heard it.   “Do as I say, not as I do.”   What does “Do as I say not as I do” imply? It implies.. quite bluntly… you are a lazy parent. Telling your child to “do as you say and not as you do” is a cop-out of all cop outs. You… Read more »

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  • New Year Challenge

    There’s so much good that comes out of something like this. Today I accepted a challenge from Seth Dahl to “Put it down and Pick them Up” – watch the video below. If you want to get in on this (which I think you should)… record a video like the one below and post to… Read more »

  • The best way to teach humility

    Take a moment and think about something you aren’t all that proud of as a parent. Maybe it was something you said to your child. Maybe it is something you didn’t follow through with, maybe it was something you did that they called you out on…   Got it? Do you have something in your… Read more »

  • on Bright and Loud

    I am sitting in my office writing about my morning – where my heart is – and where I see God working…. my laptop sitting on my desk open with the screen “full blast bright”. Trying to ignore the glaring bright screen I write a bit more… then I turn to the next page in… Read more »

  • Son, I voted for you.

    This morning before I left for the day I asked my 10-year-old son who I should vote for…   R: “It’s your decision.” Me: “It’s your future.”     Whether it is this election, future elections, future policies, current events, natural disasters, trial, tribulation, or persecution – the way we have modeled and taught our kids will… Read more »

  • Endless Smoothies

      Breakfast smoothies are a frequent in our house. Usually our blender makes enough for one boy let alone the whole army (joking.. kind of). Recently I was pouring “seconds” to one child I was reaching over the table stretching to pout the smoothie..     As I was pouring more smoothie into his cup… Read more »

  • bikes and boundaries

    What is it about boys and bikes? It’s probably a symbol of freedom, maybe it’s the speed, I don’t know.. — recently a few of the boys were riding their bikes out in front of our house. Like good, responsible parents we have given them boundaries as to how far they can go on their… Read more »

  • a Father’s heart (music)

    This album is 4 1/2 years coming… They are 4 songs for every stage of life – inspired by what I want my 5 sons to know. After some long processing (mostly in my head) but some of it in front of a whiteboard, journaling, Evernote, inviting feedback, and waiting on what the artwork would… Read more »

  • What is your favorite sound?

      What is your favorite sound?   I recently asked this – it was a topic of discussion for meals, texts, twitter, facebook and even our neighborhood.   Some of the responses : thunder, an orchestra tuning before a concert, rain, various (specific) bird calls, silence (which I argue is not a sound), the net… Read more »

  • My dad on Earth and my Dad in Heaven

    What I know about my father: He loves me. He listens. He HEARS. He spends time with me. He is caring. He provides. He is a giver. He doesn’t give up on me. He has a great laugh. He’s taught me how to love people. He is patient. He’s kind. He knows me. He asks… Read more »

  • crooked mow lines

    I am confessing something here: it drives me nuts when my “mow lines” are not straight. There, I said it. I have a five-year old son who wants to be grown up for a handful of reasons but his primary reason is: he wants to mow the lawn. The last few times I have mowed… Read more »