obsession confession

This post originally had been published on our previous blog — but it was such a good post (in that we needed reminded again) —  we felt it was fitting for “At The Speed of Family”

The more time I spend on Pinterest, Facebook and online news pages, I find myself having an overindulgence of self-improvement. I enjoy seeing how other moms do things, what they are doing, and how they are doing. I have enjoyed reading what other moms wear, what they would never use, and the best recommendations on saving money and on and on and on. Yet, recently, I found myself not feeling so good after reading status updates, pins, and headlines…a bit obsessively. Why? Well, for me, I found myself comparing, measuring, and assessing myself next to literally, a whole world of other moms. That is plain and simple, not good. Along with that, my time at the feet of my Savior was decreasing and becoming quick, hurried, and far between. This all adds up to a catastrophic concoction that leads to a terrible feeling of inadequacy. (very ugly)

If any of you have ever had this feeling come over you, what is written below is for you. The role of a mom is unique (even if there are millions all over the world). You will do things differently than the neighbor or the woman on blog #132. You will not look the same as your neighbor or the woman on blog #109. Don’t be afraid of how your neighbor is looking at you; Instead, be confident in the person your neighbor may be looking at, an heir to the throne of the Most High God! Fearfully and wonderfully made! Set apart to do good works and to glorify your Father in Heaven!

So, here it is…… To the moms that are struggling with a child potty training, dealing once again with another accident–rejoice! For this is the day the Lord has made! To the mom who has a pile of dishes in the kitchen at 9:00 at night and wants to just sit for a few minutes, SIT, rest in the arms of the Father. For the mom who had a tough time putting her kids to sleep tonight, their cries and continual steps to the door, have brought you to the end of your rope, take a deep breath, remember, they are His children first. For the mom that tried a new recipe and slaved in the kitchen to make the best meal her children have ever experienced, to watch them pick at it, spit it out, or say it is “yucky”, take hope in the Bread of Life. For the mom, who has changed the 4th, 6th, 8th, or 12th, diaper today for the child that is reliant on her to keep them clean, find cleansing in the Living Water. To the mom who has been up all night with a sick child, holding, rocking, singing, only to hear the cries once more the moment her head touches the pillow, gain your strength from the Lifter of your head. To the mom who is discouraged by her child’s disability, longing for them to be “like the other kids”, hold them closer tonight, and trust them in the hands of the Creator. To the mom struggling to see herself as beautiful after bearing 1, 2, 4, 8, children, longing to be lighter, leaner, longer, smaller, you are a child of the King, made by the King and for the King, you can’t get any better than that!

What it comes down to is this: To carry the weight and the burden of being a mom, you must know who you are and whose you are. You are God’s creation, fearfully and wonderfully made, a child of the Most High God, an heir to the throne of a King, the Bride of Christ, precious in His sight. You have been appointed, chosen, called, to be the caregiver and upholder of more heirs to His throne. Your children were given to you and you were chosen for them–no other momma can do what God has prepared in advance for you to do! You were created uniquely perfect for the role of mom to your babies: known and unknown. Mommas, be careful what you are obsessing over as a mom: is it your kids? online “helps”? media? apparent expectations? worldly success? Or are you allowing yourself to become obsessive in the Savior, the Rock, the Creator, the Father, the Bread of Life, the Living Water, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords? He IS all that you need!

Written by Lesley

Jesus first. Homeschooling, stay at home Mom of 5 boys. Dodger of nerf darts, and finder of all things missing.


Linda Dlouhy

Sometimes it’s appropriate to shout, clap, and otherwise vocally approve. For me, this is one of those times to stand in silence, yet a silence full of depth and an absorbing sense of being known and understood. To say “Selah…..give an honoring pause and think deeply of this”.

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