“Daddyyy.. wiw you pway cawrs (cars) with me?”
Hesitate. Hesitate.. thinking.. quantifying.. calculating: time, responsibilities… indexing tasks.. prioritizing responsibilities..
* Here is where most of us as parents say : “No, I can’t right now – I have too much to do”.
Then behavior and antics escalate into us disciplining because they find something negative to do to get your attention.
Most parents (opinion) believe
- “if I stop what I’m doing right now and spend time doing what you (child) are asking, I won’t accomplish what I need to get done”.
- “What I am doing is more important.” It’s probably not. And if it is important, it’s probably not an emergency that wouldn’t allow you to take the small amount of time to engage with your child.
My tone in that last point is fairly blunt and accusatory – but it is the reality I am personally writing from. Most of what I am doing isn’t an emergency. There are times, but rarely is it a genuine emergency. I would imagine you can relate.
On Average my child(ren)’s requests / questions probably take 15 min or less. They want to:
- play a game
- ask a few questions
- build a Lego car/plan/boat/truck
- play dress-up
- play house
Not exactly “monopolizers” of time.
And what I have observed (as I have practiced this before I preached it on the blog), is that the rest of the afternoon or morning goes really quite well.
Try it.. let us know if you see a difference. We’d love to hear from you.
Paddle the Boat is a series encouraging parents to be intentional (paddle) with your family life (the boat).