God has holes in the knees of his jeans

I’m of the belief that God has holes in the knees of his jeans. Yes, God has jeans and they are both Holy and holey.   Yesterday I was down on my knees play/picking-up toys if you’re a parent you get it.. you pick up while you play… it’s kind of an “80/20 rule” of sorts. I… Read more »

Lazy Parenting

We’ve all heard it.   “Do as I say, not as I do.”   What does “Do as I say not as I do” imply? It implies.. quite bluntly… you are a lazy parent. Telling your child to “do as you say and not as you do” is a cop-out of all cop outs. You… Read more »

  • Paddle The Boat: The Right Perspective (Pt 4 of 4)

    Overshadowed realties are all around us. Here are 8 of them worth considering…   Don’t let the broken plate overshadow the fact they tried to help. Don’t let the accidental spill overshadow the fact they tried to take responsibility. Don’t let the broken window overshadow the fact they have learned physics. Don’t let the fight overshadow… Read more »

  • Paddle the Boat : Saying No. (Pt 3 of 4)

      My knuckles turning white on the full grocery cart I’m pushing. Dreading the impulse buy gauntlet (aka “check-out line”). The questions WILL come. “Can I have this?” “Can I get ONE thing [they mean candy]?” I’ll be honest, I want to say yes, EVERY single time. I mean, come on… sugar tastes good. So here… Read more »

  • Paddle The Boat : Be Together (Pt 2 of 4)

    “Daddyyy.. wiw you pway cawrs (cars) with me?” Hesitate. Hesitate.. thinking.. quantifying.. calculating: time, responsibilities… indexing tasks.. prioritizing responsibilities..     * Here is where most of us as parents say : “No, I can’t right now – I have too much to do”. Then behavior and antics escalate into us disciplining because they find… Read more »

  • Paddle the Boat : The Budget Sync (Pt 1 of 4)

    Lesley’s email to our friends, the post on margin, and a late night video chat date with some dear friends about a month ago have collectively stirred some thoughts which has led me to a series I found myself writing called “paddle the boat”. The “boat” being the all-encompassing “family life”.  and the “paddle the” would be… Read more »

  • Margin is Essential

      Margin is a challenging thing to cultivate in family life. As kids age and family size grows (some of you can testify) the margin on the page of each day gets narrower.  I’ve been learning about this in my own walk as a dad, and recently I was reminded of how important margin is… Read more »

  • moving furniture

    A few days ago my 3 (and a half) year old exuberantly agreed to help me rearrange some furniture. I had to move a few chairs to this room, and move a coffee table to that room, an end table to another room. None of these did I really need help moving –  but seeing the sheer joy… Read more »

  • Dear Son(s), Find a wife like your mom.

    Dear Son(s), Find a wife like your mom. She does not shy away from hard work, hard questions, hard decisions, and good laughs. She is madly in love with Jesus, embraces the Holy Spirit, and prays to Abba. She knows her husband, stands beside him in every decision, and loves him regardless of his success / failure. She gives time. She… Read more »

  • / krāzē mākər / n.

      “Crazy Maker” / krāzē mākər / n. a person who makes crazy in an organization, group, or in another person’s life.  …. that’s my definition. There are moments when I’ll tell my kids to stop being crazy makers. You know the moments… when they pick on each other to simply pick on each other. You know,… Read more »

  • survival mode

    “How was your day?” Lesley asked as we touched base at around 8:50 tonight. She had a much deserved and needed break with her sister and was on her 2 hour trip back home. I paused. “I know you understand; but at one point it became survival mode.” She giggle/empathized. I feel I’m somewhat idealistic… Read more »

  • give up what?!

    I love spontaneity. My wife loves routine. I love snow. My wife loves 75 degrees. I love technology. My wife loves paper. I love night. My wife loves sleep. I love adventure. My wife loves home. I love doing nothing. My wife loves a plan. This list does not end. Here is what we can… Read more »