Dear Responsible Momma,

  How does a high responsibility Mom take care of 5 boys who have little interest in responsibility?     #1: She goes crazy. She spends her every step trying to command them in “duties”—wash your hands, take off your shoes, put away your toys, make your bed, brush your teeth, stay on task! Thus,… Read more »

Lazy Parenting

We’ve all heard it.   “Do as I say, not as I do.”   What does “Do as I say not as I do” imply? It implies.. quite bluntly… you are a lazy parent. Telling your child to “do as you say and not as you do” is a cop-out of all cop outs. You… Read more »

  • Margin is Essential

      Margin is a challenging thing to cultivate in family life. As kids age and family size grows (some of you can testify) the margin on the page of each day gets narrower.  I’ve been learning about this in my own walk as a dad, and recently I was reminded of how important margin is… Read more »

  • moving furniture

    A few days ago my 3 (and a half) year old exuberantly agreed to help me rearrange some furniture. I had to move a few chairs to this room, and move a coffee table to that room, an end table to another room. None of these did I really need help moving –  but seeing the sheer joy… Read more »

  • Dear Son(s), Find a wife like your mom.

    Dear Son(s), Find a wife like your mom. She does not shy away from hard work, hard questions, hard decisions, and good laughs. She is madly in love with Jesus, embraces the Holy Spirit, and prays to Abba. She knows her husband, stands beside him in every decision, and loves him regardless of his success / failure. She gives time. She… Read more »

  • / krāzē mākər / n.

      “Crazy Maker” / krāzē mākər / n. a person who makes crazy in an organization, group, or in another person’s life.  …. that’s my definition. There are moments when I’ll tell my kids to stop being crazy makers. You know the moments… when they pick on each other to simply pick on each other. You know,… Read more »

  • survival mode

    “How was your day?” Lesley asked as we touched base at around 8:50 tonight. She had a much deserved and needed break with her sister and was on her 2 hour trip back home. I paused. “I know you understand; but at one point it became survival mode.” She giggle/empathized. I feel I’m somewhat idealistic… Read more »

  • give up what?!

    I love spontaneity. My wife loves routine. I love snow. My wife loves 75 degrees. I love technology. My wife loves paper. I love night. My wife loves sleep. I love adventure. My wife loves home. I love doing nothing. My wife loves a plan. This list does not end. Here is what we can… Read more »

  • the comfort in the violence of vomit

      Of the 32 of life I’ve lived I have not run across one person that likes vomit… Just saying.  (how’s that for a hook??) Our house currently has two “down and out” – both staying close to large bowls / buckets. My mind might be strange. I can’t help but to think what is it about buckets… Read more »

  • things we say to our kids [part 2]

    A few weeks ago we shared a few things we believe should be continually cut from our vocabulary as parents. This week we share “part 2”: Things we are striving to say to our kids or looking forward to saying in the future. For this post I asked to a few parents from various seasons of parenting and asked them the… Read more »

  • Lessons in the bathroom: Brushing Teeth

    I was getting ready to head to the office this morning when our family was doing the morning routine – breakfast, clean up, switch PJ’s for suitable clothing, showers, etc.. you get the point – and have your own routine. It isn’t uncommon that you’re barged in on if you’re in the bathroom. We have… Read more »

  • things we say to our kids [part 1]

    There’s a list of sayings that parents have heard or said – here are a few that I have tried to cut from my parenting methods and lips:   “Do as I say not as I do.” If I may be completely and obviously blunt… this phrase is reckless. Your child is going to do… Read more »