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The best way to teach humility

Take a moment and think about something you aren’t all that proud of as a parent. Maybe it was something you said to your child. Maybe it is something you didn’t follow through with, maybe it was something you did that they called you out on…   Got it? Do you have something in your… Read more »

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Son, I voted for you.

This morning before I left for the day I asked my 10-year-old son who I should vote for…   R: “It’s your decision.” Me: “It’s your future.”     Whether it is this election, future elections, future policies, current events, natural disasters, trial, tribulation, or persecution – the way we have modeled and taught our kids will… Read more »

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Dear Responsible Momma,

  How does a high responsibility Mom take care of 5 boys who have little interest in responsibility?     #1: She goes crazy. She spends her every step trying to command them in “duties”—wash your hands, take off your shoes, put away your toys, make your bed, brush your teeth, stay on task! Thus,… Read more »

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crooked mow lines

I am confessing something here: it drives me nuts when my “mow lines” are not straight. There, I said it. I have a five-year old son who wants to be grown up for a handful of reasons but his primary reason is: he wants to mow the lawn. The last few times I have mowed… Read more »

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Lazy Parenting

We’ve all heard it.   “Do as I say, not as I do.”   What does “Do as I say not as I do” imply? It implies.. quite bluntly… you are a lazy parent. Telling your child to “do as you say and not as you do” is a cop-out of all cop outs. You… Read more »

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Paddle The Boat : Be Together (Pt 2 of 4)

“Daddyyy.. wiw you pway cawrs (cars) with me?” Hesitate. Hesitate.. thinking.. quantifying.. calculating: time, responsibilities… indexing tasks.. prioritizing responsibilities..     * Here is where most of us as parents say : “No, I can’t right now – I have too much to do”. Then behavior and antics escalate into us disciplining because they find… Read more »

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Margin is Essential

  Margin is a challenging thing to cultivate in family life. As kids age and family size grows (some of you can testify) the margin on the page of each day gets narrower.  I’ve been learning about this in my own walk as a dad, and recently I was reminded of how important margin is… Read more »

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survival mode

“How was your day?” Lesley asked as we touched base at around 8:50 tonight. She had a much deserved and needed break with her sister and was on her 2 hour trip back home. I paused. “I know you understand; but at one point it became survival mode.” She giggle/empathized. I feel I’m somewhat idealistic… Read more »

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things we say to our kids [part 2]

A few weeks ago we shared a few things we believe should be continually cut from our vocabulary as parents. This week we share “part 2”: Things we are striving to say to our kids or looking forward to saying in the future. For this post I asked to a few parents from various seasons of parenting and asked them the… Read more »

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Lessons in the bathroom: Brushing Teeth

I was getting ready to head to the office this morning when our family was doing the morning routine – breakfast, clean up, switch PJ’s for suitable clothing, showers, etc.. you get the point – and have your own routine. It isn’t uncommon that you’re barged in on if you’re in the bathroom. We have… Read more »