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What do you like to hear?

What do you like to hear? We asked that question at supper tonight… It’s a question that has many layers.. ask a four-year old or a ninety-four year old and you’ll get vastly different answers. But… of the 4 rounds around our supper table tonight… no one answered : “I like to hear people yell… Read more »

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Paddle The Boat: The Right Perspective (Pt 4 of 4)

Overshadowed realties are all around us. Here are 8 of them worth considering…   Don’t let the broken plate overshadow the fact they tried to help. Don’t let the accidental spill overshadow the fact they tried to take responsibility. Don’t let the broken window overshadow the fact they have learned physics. Don’t let the fight overshadow… Read more »

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Paddle The Boat : Be Together (Pt 2 of 4)

“Daddyyy.. wiw you pway cawrs (cars) with me?” Hesitate. Hesitate.. thinking.. quantifying.. calculating: time, responsibilities… indexing tasks.. prioritizing responsibilities..     * Here is where most of us as parents say : “No, I can’t right now – I have too much to do”. Then behavior and antics escalate into us disciplining because they find… Read more »

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Margin is Essential

  Margin is a challenging thing to cultivate in family life. As kids age and family size grows (some of you can testify) the margin on the page of each day gets narrower.  I’ve been learning about this in my own walk as a dad, and recently I was reminded of how important margin is… Read more »

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moving furniture

A few days ago my 3 (and a half) year old exuberantly agreed to help me rearrange some furniture. I had to move a few chairs to this room, and move a coffee table to that room, an end table to another room. None of these did I really need help moving –  but seeing the sheer joy… Read more »

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survival mode

“How was your day?” Lesley asked as we touched base at around 8:50 tonight. She had a much deserved and needed break with her sister and was on her 2 hour trip back home. I paused. “I know you understand; but at one point it became survival mode.” She giggle/empathized. I feel I’m somewhat idealistic… Read more »

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the comfort in the violence of vomit

  Of the 32 of life I’ve lived I have not run across one person that likes vomit… Just saying.  (how’s that for a hook??) Our house currently has two “down and out” – both staying close to large bowls / buckets. My mind might be strange. I can’t help but to think what is it about buckets… Read more »

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things we say to our kids [part 2]

A few weeks ago we shared a few things we believe should be continually cut from our vocabulary as parents. This week we share “part 2”: Things we are striving to say to our kids or looking forward to saying in the future. For this post I asked to a few parents from various seasons of parenting and asked them the… Read more »

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Lessons in the bathroom: Brushing Teeth

I was getting ready to head to the office this morning when our family was doing the morning routine – breakfast, clean up, switch PJ’s for suitable clothing, showers, etc.. you get the point – and have your own routine. It isn’t uncommon that you’re barged in on if you’re in the bathroom. We have… Read more »

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things we say to our kids [part 1]

There’s a list of sayings that parents have heard or said – here are a few that I have tried to cut from my parenting methods and lips:   “Do as I say not as I do.” If I may be completely and obviously blunt… this phrase is reckless. Your child is going to do… Read more »