A few weeks ago we shared a few things we believe should be continually cut from our vocabulary as parents. This week we share “part 2”: Things we are striving to say to our kids or looking forward to saying in the future.
For this post I asked to a few parents from various seasons of parenting and asked them the former questions… What are you working to say [more] to your kids, and what are you looking forward to saying?
Here were some of the answers:
- “You must have worked very hard on that.”
- “I like how you…(enter specific praise here)”
- “I need you to… (enter “no-nonsense” command here)”
- May the Lord bless you and keep you. May He Make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. May He lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace. *kiss *hug
- “I’m sorry.”
- “I was wrong.”
- “Will you forgive me?”
- What did you name him/her?
“I love you.”
“I will always love you, I may not like or agree with some of you choices, but I will always love you!”
- …take advantage of any chance I get to say “I love you” or “I am proud of you” when it’s not directly prompted by obedience or good works.
- “Congratulations, Dr./Representative/Senator/Mr. President!”
- “Isn’t it amazing how God _______”
- “I saw God working in your heart when you ______________”
As I read through this list – everything in me said “yes”. I bet the people who contributed to this list would say they don’t always get it right… they don’t always say the “right thing” or the “best thing”. And when you don’t … yes when… show your child what humility looks like and talk to them about how parents aren’t perfect. Apologize. Teach them how to be humble by being humble. It’s not always what you say… it’s how they see you live, love, and learn from YOUR mistakes and (dare I say) sins.